Listen to understand..

1. Say it. When you say the words "I Love You," do they carry it with them the desire to show someone you love them or do they carry it with them is it what you want to feel? And when you say it make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person.
   2. Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, try to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are; and realize how they could also love you back just as well.
   3. Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, of allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
   4. Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for loving's sake. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.
   5. Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love.

For an effective and good communication ... Be a good listener first ::

When people express themselves verbally; they generally want evidence of at least two things:

They've been heard and They've been understood.
A good communicator tries first to be a good listener, here we advocate five steps toward good listening.


* Blending:
Everything about you, from body posture to voice volume,
must give the impression that you hear and understand.

* Backtracking:
Repeating back some of the actual words that another person
Is using and sending a clear signal that you're listening.

* Clarifying:
This step allows you to figure out what the person
intents to communicate.

* Summarizing:
This allows you to make sure that both you and the
Other person are on the same page.

* Reconfirming:
The fifth and the final step is to confirm what you
Have heard.

The key point:
Listen first, listen well: You aren't likely to be heard (or understood) until the person has said what
he or she has to say.

Learn and practices these five steps for good listening: Blend, back-track, clarify, summarize and re-confirming.
Make sure the other person knows you've heard and understood: You must establish this fact before you attempt
to get him or her to Hear and understand you.... .. try it out

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